as the mind wanders

just now, my sis was showing me this girl from her school thru myspace. as i was browsing the list of the girl's friends, i saw this familiar guy. so i clicked on his photo and there he was. it was izman, ikmal's brother. and guess what? He's engaged! and he's only like what..soon to be 20?
i was quite shocked at first, thinking of the fact that izman is engaged. that small little brat (well, once upon a time) is soon to be married to someone's 2 years older than him. i dont know about ikmal but there's no sign of him getting hitched or etc.

i just dont know how someone can just make up their minds and know that this is the right time to propose and start a new life with that special someone. i mean, at such tender age, how do u know if that's the right thing to do? or how sure are u if that's the person u want to live with for the rest of ur life? it doesn't make sense to me.

personally, i think making a critical decision such as marriage is like taking a risk and u certainly don't want to regret it 10-15 years later (or prolly 3 months after).
this is ur future. there are so many factors that u need to take into consideration and not simply because u're so in love with this one person and u've decided that u want to spend the rest of ur life with him/her.

it's not just about spending ur life with ur loved one. its about mutual understanding. about the responsibilities that both of the parties are going to undertake and whether they are ready or not. it's about respecting each other. and like it or not, whether u are capable of financing the needs and wants of the family.

i'm not being pessimistic here. of course, one day i want to get married and have my own children. who doesn't? but the fact that some people just take it so easy and most of them end up getting divorced after couple of months or years after marriage.
there are just so much more to it.

well, what i'm trying to say here is that people nowadays tend to make decision in a hurry without thinking of the consequences they might get by doing what they "think" is right for them. it's cool if u think that, ah..what's life without some bumps along the way.
but would it be better if u can avoid urself from doing something u might regret later?

think. about. it.